Vol 036: Anger is a Powerful Catalyst and You Need to Stop Ignoring It

The truth is, your anger isn’t dangerous. It’s divine. Here's how my anger has helped me over the years.

For most of my life, I’ve been told that anger is something to hide. That it makes people uncomfortable. That it’s the opposite of grace, of maturity, of kindness. That it makes you untrustworthy, unprofessional, unwell.

But the truth is, anger has been one of the greatest catalysts of my life.

Anger is what helped me ignore every voice that told me not to get divorced. It rose up in me when the polite part wanted to stay quiet. It cut through the fear and whispered, You don’t have to keep living like this. And I listened. Because somewhere deep inside, I knew that this anger was not a flaw. It was my compass.

Anger is what helped me tune out the doctors who told me I would be sick and bedridden forever. It helped me feel something more powerful than their prognosis. I felt a refusal to be defined by other people’s limitations. I felt a pulse of possibility that said, I know you’re scared, but don’t give up. And I didn’t.

Anger is what helped me build two companies I am wildly proud of, even when people told me I had no idea what I was doing. When they doubted my leadership, questioned my ideas, or tried to shrink my vision into something more manageable, it was anger that said, Keep going. Do it anyway. Show them what is possible when you don’t ask for permission.

Anger helped me protect myself in the face of harm and heartbreak. It helped me walk away. It helped me set boundaries I used to tremble just thinking about. It reminded me that love without self-respect is not love at all.

And no, I don’t believe we are meant to live in anger. From a nervous system perspective, I know it is not safe to stay there. But that doesn’t make anger bad. That makes it sacred information. It is your body’s way of saying, Something is not right. Something needs your attention. Something needs to change.

As women, we are taught to avoid that voice. We are told to be palatable. To soften. To smooth things over. To make it easier for other people to stay comfortable around us. But I want to offer something different.

What if your anger is not the enemy?

What if your anger is the moment your truth finally got loud enough to hear?

I have come to believe that anger is not just allowed. It is essential. When honored and channeled, it becomes a source of clarity, courage, and real change.

You don’t need to perform your healing with a smile on your face. You don’t need to pretend you are not furious about the way things have gone. Sometimes anger is the door. Sometimes it is the fire that clears the way.

Let me know what this post stirred in you. Have you had a moment when anger became a turning point in your story? I would love to hear about it in the comments.

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